Time and time again we have all felt the need to cut people out of our lives. Friends who have not been so loyal, annoying family members, irritating neighbors and whoever else rubs us the wrong way. You have thought to yourself, if I eliminate this person from my life completely, I will be free from some irritations. Which could probably be true. But then you would have to cut off almost, if not everyone, you know. At some point, everyone in your life has failed you, irritated you, disappointed you, at least the people who are a little close to you.
If everyone thinks in this way, we will all be booted out of someone's life everyday for the irritating things we have done to them and are bound to do again. Then what? Everyone lives isolated from everyone else? If only that was practically possible.
Everybody needs somebody at some point in their lives. Even that one person you never imagined you could ever need. Some people are better being on their own than others. Some actually prefer it. But does that mean they never need anyone, no. Some people are loners, but one thing for sure is no man can thrive well on their own, in isolation and with no connection to others. It could be someone to laugh with, someone to cry with, someone to argue with, name it.
Truth is, sometimes we are better off without some people in our lives. People who pull you down, demoralize you or bring out the worst in you. People you would rather love or hate at a distance. People you know are not good for you and will never be. You are able to tell who these people are after a while of interaction with them in different situations.
"People talk. People lie. People cheat. People change their ways. People do stupid things. People walk out of your life. People hurt you. People make you. People break you. People heal you. People save you. Life happens and there is absolutely nothing you can do about any of it."
So I have learnt to accept the form in which some people are present in my life. Even that very irritating, annoying, disappointing part in which they may come. The days I have badly felt like totally deleting a person from my life, I have distanced myself from them or given them a time out.
Of course there are those I have inevitably kept in my heart but out of my life. You can tell when it's really not worth it and you have to cut ties.
But as John Donne put it, 'no man is an island'. Unless you are sure you need NOBODY ever, think twice before you continuously cut people out of your life. You will soon ran out of people to delete because cliche as this sounds, nobody is perfect. Not even you.
And no man is self sufficient, how ever rich, intelligent, beautiful they may be.
We all need somebody.
LT
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