Stereotypes
arise from repetitiveness of certain things which people come to
believe to be true. So they are not entirely baseless. That being
said, there are stereotypical beliefs I have refused to agree with no
matter how commonly they are believed. Also because I think they
corrupt the mind and the way people would rather live their lives.
Here they are:
#1.
All men cheat. Whoever
came up with that must have been a scorned woman who continuously
made some really bad choices. I know how naive that may sound to many
women.
Truth; Men
generally have a high sex drive compared to women which is one of the
main causes of cheating. This does not mean there isn't still a big
number that will not cheat on their partners for sex or any other
reason. Too bad for the ladies who have given their men a pass to
cheat because 'all men are dogs'.
#2.
Every woman wants to be a mother. Females
are naturally expected to desire to become mothers at some point in
their lives. All women are expected to have a motherly instinct
somewhere in their DNA.
Truth; There
are many women out there who don't feel like motherhood is for them.
They do not hate kids, maybe they would even make better mothers than
some actual mothers. They simply do not want it or long for it as
most people believe all women do for reasons that vary from woman to
woman.
#3.
All men want a woman who can cook. Where
I come from and many parts of the world, it is the norm for women to
cook for their families. Growing up, boys were never expected in the
kitchen whereas it was a MUST for the girls to be in the kitchen
while the meals were being prepared. Women have been made to believe
that not being able to cook is a deal breaker for all
men. Truth; While
cooking a prerequisite for some men to settle with a woman, very many
men out there can't be bothered if you can cook like a professional
chef or not cook at all. Some find more pleasure in cooking for their
woman than have her sweating in the kitchen while he sips on a beer.
PS: This is not an excuse for woman not to learn how to cook. Being a
good cook could be a plus for you especially if you happen to fall
for one of those men who love to be spoiled with a delicious home
cooked meal everyday.
#4.
All Africans want to live in the west. Every
time an African gets on a plane to go overseas, it is believed that's
a dream come true and they will do whatever it takes never to come
back home. It is believed that Africans will jump at any opportunity
to 'escape' the African continent to live 'the American dream' or
whatever other dreams are out there. Truth; Many
Africans living in the west are there not by choice but
circumstances. Many don't have the slightest desire to live in the
west but are just curious of what lies beyond just like anybody else
about places they were not born or raised. Many Africans find more
comfort in the slow, 3rd world lifestyle in Africa even after seeing
what other more developed continents have to offer.
#5.
All men with big manhood give good sex. Popular
belief has it that the bigger the penis size, the better the sex.
This is probably because they can hit all corners with less
effort. Truth; It's
useless to reach different corners with ease if you don't know which
corners to hit in the first place. Big penis size doesn't
automatically equal to good sex if you don't know how to use it. Too
bad, it doesn't come with a manual. In many cases huge manhood
actually does more harm than good. Good sex is so much more about
technique, chemistry and other tiny, little things. Sorry if I just
burst your bubble well endowed males out there ;-)
#6.
All high maintenance women are gold diggers. Many
women are tagged as gold diggers just because they have expensive
taste or are into a certain lifestyle. There is nothing wrong
with loving a certain standard of living and being lucky enough to
find someone willing to sustain it. Truth; A
woman is only a gold digger if their SOLE intention of being with
someone is the expensive lifestyle or goes out hunting for someone to
bring this lifestyle to her. Many women simply love the
finer things in life, are ready to work for them and won't
settle for less and so if you can't keep up, she just won't
have you.
Even
if there is usually truth to many stereotypes, many other times
they are plain ignorant. I prefer to embrace diversity and learn
more, rather than stereotyping.
What
common stereotypes have you refused to fall for?
LT
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