This year started off with a series of epiphanies for me. A mix of sad, happy, emotional events that came with so many lessons to learn. All the same, it was a great start to the year with my family and friends close to me.
I have heard many people say they gave up on making resolutions for the year because they never get to fulfill them, or the goals often change as they go through the year. I have continuously refused to follow this kind of thinking even when it makes sense to me sometimes. I feel that even if I don't fulfill some of the things I set out to do for the year, at least I have a sort of direction in which I am headed. I have motive.
Everyone needs a reason to scan through their lives, do a 'spring clean', rethink decisions, make new ones, press the refresh button in our lives, and what better time to do this than the beginning of a new year?
You may think there are no major goals to set so you might as well let the year just go by. You may be a believer in fate like me and believe things are going to happen in a certain way if they were already meant to happen that way. Maybe you have never fulfilled any new year resolutions so you don't see the point in making them over and over again. I totally get it, but still don't agree with it. There is always something to change in our lives. Most of the times you have to keep trying till it happens.
Well, here's what I am doing for 2014. I am looking into different aspects in my life: friends, family, behavior, habits, achievements, dreams, career to mention but a few. Then I am asking myself, are these things the way I want them to be? Are there ways I can make them better? Are there new things I can add to make my life better or more fulfilling? Am I clinging onto things I should have let go of a long time ago, like broken relationships, dreams, disappointments? Then I am setting out to make changes in these areas.
I cannot be sure I will fulfill the changes I want to make, maybe I won't even go through with any by the end of the year. But I will go through the year knowing there are clean ups that need to be done. The longer I carry that load on my head, the more I will want to offload it and probably make those changes after all. A new year also gives you a definite time frame to accomplish things and this gives you motivation, the need to succeed at something you have set out to do.
This year, more than ever, I realized that we live so much in the 'could have been' while doing nothing about it. We hold onto so much unnecessary baggage that we ought to drop off. For example, could you be holding onto relationships even when it is clearly not working? Take this year as the year you come to terms with the fact that we can outgrow even the dearest of relationships and it's a normal thing so the clinging has got to stop. Are there things you have procrastinated for so long you have almost given up on them? Those extra pounds you have badly wanted to cut off for so long, that drivers permit test you keep reminding yourself you have to take but never go through with it, that old flame who constantly disrespects you and you know you need to cut them off but you keep taking them back.
Use every new year to keep refreshing your mind that these things have got to be done.
It's not too late to get thinking about those resolutions!!! Make the year count.
LT
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